Date A Girl Who Travels
Date a girl who travels. Date a girl who would rather save up for out of town trips or day trips than buy new shoes or clothes. She may not look like a fashion plate, but behind that tanned and freckled face from all the days out in the sun, lies a mind that can take you places and an open heart that will take you for what you are, not for what you can be.
Date a girl who travels. You’ll recognize her by the backpack she always carries. She won’t be carrying a dainty handbag; where will she put her travel journal, her pens, and the LED flashlight that’s always attached to her bag’s zipper? In a small purse, how can she bring the small coil of travel string, the wet tissues, the box of cracker, and the bottle of water she’s always ready with, just in case something happens and she can’t go home yet?
Yes, a girl who travels knows that anytime, anything can happen and she just has to be prepared with it. Nothing takes her by surprise; she takes everything with equanimity, knowing that such things are always a part of life. She’s reliable and dependable, traits that she’s learned while on the road.
You’ll also recognize a girl who travels by the fact that she’s always amazed at the world around her, no matter if she’s in her home town or in a place that’s totally new. She sees beauty all around her, not just the ones featured in travel guides or shown in postcards. A girl who travels has developed a deeper appreciation for life. She won’t judge you, or pressure you to do things you don’t want to do. She knows too much about the importance of identity and self-efficacy, and she will appreciate all the more if you won’t pretend to be who you’re not.
You can make mistakes with a girl who travels, and you can also be as idiosyncratic as you can be. Trust me, she has seen so much worse in her travels, and knows firsthand the vagaries of human nature.
Date a girl who travels, because when you’re with her, you’ll realize that even though she’s napped at a temple in Angkor Wat, went boating down the Mekong Delta, ran by the streets of Saigon, or went skinny-dipping in the caves in the Philippines, she still retains that humility that is the mark of a real traveler. She knows she’s been to a lot of places, but she’s humbled by the fact that the world is still a big place and she’s only seen a small part of it. Seeing this in her can make you feel all right with yourself too; there’s no need for you to do more, to be more. What you are is enough.
When you meet a girl who travels, ask her where she’s been and what she’s going to do next. She will appreciate your interest, and if you’re lucky, she may even invite you to join her. When she does, do. Nothing bonds people better than traveling. On your trips, you will both see each other’s best and worst characteristics, and you can then decide whether she’s worth fighting for.
It’s easy enough to date a girl who travels. She won’t want expensive gifts; you can buy her (or both of you) cheap tickets to Thailand for the weekend, and she’ll be more than happy to take you to the longest wooden bridge in the country. You don’t even have to go overseas; you can take her out on day trips, caving or hiking, or treat her to a full body massage.
You can also buy her the little things that she keeps forgetting to buy for herself; that carabiner that will attach her backpack to her seat so that she will feel easier about sleeping on her bus trip, or a backpack cover, a small alarm clock, a money belt, or maybe another sarong that will replace the one she lost in China.
She won’t mind if you get lost on your way to a date. She knows that oftentimes, the journey is more important than the destination. She will help you see the lighter side of things. She’ll walk along with you, not behind you, pointing out the interesting bits of things you’ll see on the way. Before long, you’ll realize that yes, the journey has been more memorable than the destination that you’ve planned to take her to.
Is a girl who travels worth it? Yes, she is. So when you find her, keep her. Don’t lose her with your insecurities and doubts. Because when she says she loves you, she really does. After all, she’s seen so many things, met so many people, and if she had chosen you, better grab that opportunity and thank the gods that you were lucky enough she’s chosen you and not that bloke she met while watching the sun rise in Angkor Wat, or while whitewater rafting in the Padas Gorge in Sabah.
If she says she loves you, she must have seen something in you, something that can always call her back from her travels, something that can anchor her to the world in the way that she wants to after weeks and months of being on the road.
Date a girl who travels. Make her feel safe, warm, and secure. Make her believe that no matter where she goes, and however long she’s gone, you’ll always be there for her, the one that she can call home.
Find a girl who travels. Date her, love her, and marry her, and your world will never be the same again.
Inspired by Date a Girl Who Reads by Rosemarie Urquico
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This is very nice, Lei. Super like the last sentence. Para kay Dolly, marry a girl who writes. Happy traveling!
OMYGAD. You hit it like a rock. Such a genius. I totally agree!! HAHA
I am super envious, Aleah. I wish I wrote this piece.
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@ Janet: Thanks Janet. I’m glad to have been the first to write this hehe
@ Cai: Thanks, thanks. I missed out on a few hours of going around Copenhagen to write this piece, but I’m glad about how it turned out.
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super like Aleah! *hugs* di naman sa nagpapalaki ng ulo ang mga lfemale travelers. sweet lang. hehehe
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what a lovely post! i like the last like “Find a girl who travels. Date her, love her, and marry her, and your world will never be the same again.” =)
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@ Cat: Agree 100% hehe
@ Michi: Thanks. Feel free to share
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well-written girl, love it! parang may pinatatamaan ah, joke
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Love this witty post Aleah dear.moving!! so i’m sure maraming namove the guys dyan!!
Enjoyed your post. Maybe I’ll start looking for one of those
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@ Claire: Thanks. Nope, wala akong pinapatamaan
@ Mhe-Anne: Sana nga they were moved! hehe
@ Kevin Olega: Good luck with your search
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senti much?
This is so nice! Thanks Aleah!
@ Ace: It goes with the month, the season of L-O-V-E. hehe
@ Karen: Thanks
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Super like ^_^ Such a heartwarming post
Eloquent post and oh so true, thank you for sharing your thoughts. Loved it! Having just been broken up with Due to My Traveling for my work as a storyteller, I can totally Relate. thank you so much for writing a beautiful post about the REAL REASONS girls who travel are such good catches. <3
Love your article! So true!
Love this entry!
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@ Joann: Thanks!
@ Kristin: Yes, they (we) really are a good catch
@ Pia: Thanks! Yes it’s true!
@ Simurgh: Feel free to share!
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so true!!! opposite to what guys think na high maintenance ang mga girls who travel … haha! =)
What a marvellous piece of writing! The others will have to be pretty damn fine to beat this!! I’ve been enjoying your travels – can’t wait for more!!
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This really resonated with me. Thank you Aleah, a very beautifully written post! Love it!
I think you can’t sleep in the Angkor Wat complex. Nap perhaps? LOL
@ Liza: Yup, yup. But remember, there are also girls who are flashpackers hehe
@ Red: Umm..now, I’m pressured!
@ Lois: I enjoyed writing it a lot!
@ KJ: Thanks for the correction. You’re right; I just took a nap. Changed it already!
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my sister was like..”hey, you should read this, it’s sweet!”. and she said, wait, do you know here?” haha so here I am, reading. nice one Aleah, pero wait, sino yung bloke na na meet mu while watching the sunrise in Angkor? haha joke lang. like ko tong post. keep it up!
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Ang ganda! Heart-felt and really sweet!
Dear Aleah, I just read it now. Fantastic peace of writing. Thanks for being around….
@ Gael: Thanks hehe. I have yet to write actually about my Angkor Wat experience. It was nothing sensational
@ Cotz: Thanks!!!
@ Ole: Thank you for having me in your lovely home. Hope to see you again!
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well written but i just had to say that this is just another rip off from this post http://nonamerah.wordpress.com/2011/10/03/869/ . at least learn how to credit where you get your ideas from. thanks.
@ MOX: Thanks for being so helpful and positive. I suggest scrolling up and reading my post again, and notice my last line: “Inspired by Date a Girl Who Reads by Rosemarie Urquico” which I attributed both to the site and to the writer’s Faceboook page. Thanks for reading!
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hands down for putting up this one.
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Amazing!! I’m with u!!
wish i found her..
nanghinayang tuloy ako. HEHE.
tagos sa puso! great read! #livetotravel
@ Carm: Thanks
@ Lisa:
@ Koyang: Don’t worry; you will!
@ myjejunelife: Yep, live to travel!
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beautifully written — low key & at the same time intense
I feel you, Aleah. Ganda ng pagkakasulat. Asan na ba kasi si Mr. Right ko LOL
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hi
i so love this article 
i really can relate to it (every words in it) because i myself love to travel a lot and i even influenced my boyfriend 
and we’re both regular travelers in and out of the country 
traveling gives us both fulfillment and happiness 
@ H: Thank you. I didn’t expect it to come out that way but I’m glad it did.
@ Mica: Ako rin naghahanap ng Mr Right hehe
@ Jazz: Thanks
@ Andrea: Good for you that you have influenced your boyfriend. Traveling really does bring a couple together.
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@Aleah, nasakal na ako eh.. este nakasal na.. HAHA..
soloflight lang ako sa galaan, walang gwardiya sibil.. HAHAHA..
spoken like a true traveler! very heart warming! kaya sa prince charming ko dumating ka na!! hahaha
so true!
i am a girl who travels hahaha i shared this in my facebook and twitter! 
hi… somebody sent this link to me
nakakatuwa nmn…
Spot on! Thanks for this
My guy could never understand why I’m obsessed with traveling. Maybe I should let him read this piece along with Date a Girl who Reads, that is my other vice 
exact description of my girlfriend… “a girl who travels”.
Indeed. A girl who travels loves knowledge, culture, and people. She is engaging and explorative – you will never get bored. However, the stereotype between a traveling backpacker, freckled and tanned vs the fashion plate is untrue – one may be able to walk under the southeastern sun while wearing a pretty pair of shoes and hat! Nothing needs to be compensated. It’s the whole world to love!
What a load of nonsense. ‘…she will appreciate all the more if you won’t pretend to be who you’re not…’ is the most fatuous thing I’ve heard. I was with a girl who traveled a lot for almost eight years and when I had realized that I had ‘deconverted’ and had become an atheist, it took her less than 24 hours to abandon me. Obviously, being intellectually honest is not a universal trait among all those who love traveling, hence this repudiation of this odious, ungrounded and childish notion that a girl who travels equate to a girl with a broad mind and a formidable intellect.
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This is absolutely true and beautiful. I can totally relate. I love this! Good luck! Hope you win.
This may just be the best read I had this month. I don’t know why but my heart melted with your every word. If it’s okay, may I link this write-up in my blog? I’m just filled with this smile right now that I can’t wipe out of my face. You’re so spot on.:)
Mariel
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Awesome essay!. Totally agree with you. <3
love this post aleah! beautifully written
indeed, date a girl who travels.
Well said. Soon i will meet her.
I love this part, which reads like it describes me:
Date a girl who travels, because when you’re with her, you’ll realize that even though she’s napped at a temple in Angkor Wat, went boating down the Mekong Delta, ran by the streets of Saigon, or went skinny-dipping in the caves in the Philippines, she still retains that humility that is the mark of a real traveler. She knows she’s been to a lot of places, but she’s humbled by the fact that the world is still a big place and she’s only seen a small part of it. Seeing this in her can make you feel all right with yourself too; there’s no need for you to do more, to be more. What you are is enough.
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Nice blog… Happy Travelling…
weng:)
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Hi,
First time here, and saw two of my friends link to your post. Just a couple of comments.
1. Perfectly written piece. It put a smile on my face.
2. Wouldn’t it be better if you get married to a girl who travels too? I know I did.
Looking forward to reading more of your entries.
I’m dating a girl who travels. I love her, I will marry her and I know my world will never be the same again.
I absolutely adore this!!! Definitely bookmarking and sharing with everyone I know!
lurve it!
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I totally agree. Written like a poem! How wonderful!
Hi there!
I’ve read your piece and gawd, it really inspired me to move and learn more! If you don’t mind, I would like to repost this on my blog and write my thoughts about it. All credits will be mentioned.
Hope you’ll continue writing inspirational blogs cause this one really fueled my passion for traveling.
All the best,
Kim Buenafe
Really nice post, thoroughly enjoyed it! All the best in your future travels, stay safe and keep writing!
Would you marry me?
‘Find a girl who travels. Date her, love her, and marry her, and your world will never be the same again.’
awww…i love that..i wish i could find a girl who always travels
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Beautiful piece – I love it! Hope to be that sort of girl too.
This blog is beautiful and insightful. If you ever want to talk, I would gladly date you. You’re so sexy and wonderful. Be mine forever.
I don’t know what the intent of this post is, but this is how it’s coming off to some people (like me)
1. This ‘date a girl who…’ idea seems to spread notions that your hobby somehow makes you better than someone who isn’t doing it. So correct me if I’m wrong.
2. You seek male validation. You’re encouraging men to date you because of #1. It’s as if you’re a contestant from The Bachelor. It reeks of desperation. You can be an awesome, date-able person without having to let out this desperate cry for male attention.
I’m sure you don’t see things that way but I still wanted to let you know that this kind of literature pushes women right back to the last century. If you appreciate yourself the way you say you do in this post, you probably don’t need to encourage a guy to date you.
a very inspiring read.
chanced upon your article on fb thru shared links by friends.
to more travels and meeting new people!
unfortunately for me, i can’t date anymore, i’m engaged.
actually, fortunately. lol
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lovely piece of writing. i adore the thoughts behind this post.
funny how most of the commentators are ladies…
this is soooo good
I love your blog and I can totally relate.
“You’ll also recognize a girl who travels by the fact that she’s always amazed at the world around her, no matter if she’s in her home town or in a place that’s totally new. She sees beauty all around her, not just the ones featured in travel guides or shown in postcards. A girl who travels has developed a deeper appreciation for life.”
As a photographer, travelling is also the best way to appreciate and capture the beauty all around us.
I really love this post, Aleah! inspiring and so true. Ayan, ang dami mo ng fans and proposals. hehehe
I somehow agree with this Post. Thumbs up! Thanks for sharing this. Hugs.
i can so totally relate hahahha! i mean everyone can setup a blog and start bragging but not everyone can be a good writer. i think this one is a good write up. you inspired me to go travelling more. with or without a buddy!
cheers!
rona
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=) I like your post. It is very well written and the pictures are so real. Above all I also like those lines : She won’t mind if you get lost on your way to a date. She knows that oftentimes, the journey is more important than the destination. She will help you see the lighter side of things. She’ll walk along with you, not behind you, pointing out the interesting bits of things you’ll see on the way. Before long, you’ll realize that yes, the journey has been more memorable than the destination that you’ve planned to take her to.
I’m a traveler myself and recently started solo travels. Love this post… i can really relate to it. This also reminds me, I should start my own travel blog soon… friends has been bugging me to start one for the longest time. I’m sharing this on my facebook page and will definitely feature this when i start my own blog… or better yet, make my own with credits to you and other blogs. =)
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I can relate… I love travelling.. I think I should apply for an Airlines again soon and my camera is my travel companion.
how very original *sarcasm intended*
love your post! really interesting, as I, myself loves to travel a lot either by train, bus, ship, or plane… the more places i see and discover, the more i am amazed on what life has to offer… and with that, it is an enough reason to praise, honor, and thank the Creator of the universe for what He has brought!
This is too sweet. Made me tear a little! Glad I saw this post on my FB. I love travelling too.
Philippines is one of the last few Asian countries I haven’t been to. You could host me sometime. *winks*
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A very nicely written article! Kudos!(“,)
Since I love travelling AND reading, i found this quote very appropriate:
“The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.” – St. Augustine
this is truly beautiful, thank you for putting this on paper, Aleah. It’s like you wrote it for all of us, traveling gals:)
Famous last words:
“Find a girl who travels. Date her, love her, and marry her, and your world will never be the same again.” To which I will add:
“And if you’re lucky, you will raise kids who love to travel. A 5-yr old who has more country stamps in her passport than her number of years. She’s walked the ruins of Angkor, stood before the great statue of Christ in Rio, struck up a friendship with a shopkeeper in Florence, and played on the ramparts of a fort in Barcelona. She takes in stride long layovers at Delhi airport, and knows that a Mother’s Day dinner in Bangkok is nothing out of the way. (So what if she has to be bribed sometimes with gelato and frozen desserts as incentives for all that walking:) – it’s all good:))
I read the article and reminded me when I dated a girl who travels and she was the best girl i ever dated. I hope that we could get back together one day because she’s the girl i would want to marry.
Very cute article! All kinds of girls in the world are awesome but the kind that travels I would say are pretty cool
This piece is wonderful. Isa syang written piece na hindi nakakasawang basahin ng paulit ulit
and i dont even read blogs!
Let me date you should you next come over to Korea
I just fell in love with this post. True enough, there is more to traveling than what other people think. It’s more than the shopping, taking photos and dining out — it is all about the journey — walking from one town to another, getting lost and finding your way back home. Oh gosh, no wonder why I love traveling! Your post made me want to pack my bag and travel at this very second.
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This is a really cool piece.. I’m not after the dating part, but being a girl who travels a lot, this hits a home run…
One of the most wonderfully written posts I’ve read. Amazing job, Aleah!
Great article!!! Travelling around is just so fun! [only to have money as a barrier
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What a great article! After reading it I now have an even bigger travel bug!
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Beautiful piece!
Date a girl who travels and she will take you to the place where you have never been. This article is truly an inspiration not only to men but also to women out there.
-lynne
LOVE THIS.
If only I can find that guy? haha…
Thanks for writing. Made my day. 
Thanks for article!
You probably described and expressed the feelings of all travel gals around the world!!! It’s like written about me… Very nice! I appreciate your effort a lot and share this with my friends.
well said. but better yet, well traveled.
two thumbs up for your article aleah. great!!
Very well written!
Regards from Malaysia
What a great post! I think you’ve described us perfectly!
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Well said, very wise. Serves as a great reminder on “how to travel” and “how to see the world” for all of us too!
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very nice..I hope this gets to the person I love..
#love
Very inspiring! I look forward to reading “Date a guy who travels”
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Just my two cents. I don’t think the guys would want to marry a girl who travel a lot a.k.a. Lakwatsera. Why? Because we live in a country where the man believes that the woman must take care of the home and the children. Whether we admit it or not sexism is deep-seated in our culture. Ask a man with family if he approves of his wife to travel a lot. Maybe he would allow it once in a while but on one condition- The whole family would travel together. But then everything changes, even culture and traditions change. I hope that what was stated on your post is the norm now. Maybe. It depends. Oh well, this is just my personal opinion.
This is a really great post. I’m an American who currently lives in Brazil. Traveling the world helps to expand one’s consciousness and definitely can offer a new appreciation of life. I agree completely!
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Oh my. Congrats, Aleah. You’re living your dream. Keep writing and traveling!
Someone shared your story on the Facebook, and I have to say I just love love love it.
Nice blog Aleah! Really liked this post. i’ll look forward to more of your interesting aticles.: D keep on travelling girl! Cheers to good life…
Aleah! I really liked this article! Congratulations, you’ve inspired a lot of women and opened the eyes of men. I’ll look forward to more of your interesting adventures and the likes. Keep on travelling girl. And CHEERS to good life!
Hi Aleah, wonderful prose in this light-hearted essay. Kudos to You.
What do you have to say on this scenario then?
“A Guy who wishes to date a travelling-girl but isn’t enthusiastic about travelling/exploring the globe, aka a Mr. Homely.”
What happens now?
Cheerio,
Singaporean Visitor.
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This post really gone viral Aleah! You have captured the taste of the world!!! Congrats!
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I am so sick of these inane, regurgitated versions of the ‘Date A Girl Who…’ trope. It’s been done TO DEATH. I can just imagine the writer patting herself on the back for what she thinks is such a clever take on ‘You Should Date An Illiterate Girl’, when this essentially spits on Charles Warnke’s essay. Can’t you come up with something more original?
Love it!
Super love this!
Loved it. As a (single) perpetual globetrotter, can I not agree?? Well said
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Came here through the link a friend shared.Loved the write up How very true – specially the part about true bonding happening over travels !
From One Solitary traveller to another – well said indeeed !
I love this! Sharing this on Facebook!
I love to travel, has all the traits but I still don’t have the money to travel yet. An awesome piece of writing nevertheless
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This is SUCH a beautiful piece of writing. Adore, adore, adore, adore, adore.
Hi Aleah,
I feel so lucky to have found your writing and your site this morning. I think it would inspire the most apprehensive woman to take a leap of faith and start seeing the world and what it’s got to offer her.
Also, what she can offer it.
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I love it… How I wish I could travel too and find a cute date all at the same time!
I lurveee how you tell a story… its such an inspiration..
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Now i see travelling in a much deeper perspective. I’m wearing my backpack proud! Thanks for the wonderful writing
Very nice article and i absolutely agree with you. Cheers!
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chumacharles wanke FTW! well-written. dig.
I found her and she chose me! I posted this on her facebook wall because it totally described her. Your article will surely make her smile.
Even though this post is not your original idea, i would say its well written and its really describe me as one of those girl who love traveling. Those guys who date female traveler are really lucky people.. aren’t they??
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Very touching… I hope the good,single guys out there would chance upon this beautiful article…
No new post? You should be on Twitter or update more often somewhere…
Heyyy,
I really really LOVE this article. I translated it into Chinese mandarin in order to share with more people in Taiwan. Here is the Chinese version:http://tw.myblog.yahoo.com/venus791129/article?mid=9502 (posted on my friend’s blog) Thank you again for compositing such beautiful article. Hope we can see more masterpieces coming up!
Bests,
Ting
hi Aleah,
I really like your blog. will it be ok if i blog something like it? but pertaining to my friends. I want to write them a small dedication in this tone for Im leaving the country for some traveling hiatus. I want to leave them something before I actually do.
Fantastic post!
Love this. So apt. I made my husband read it, and he cried (so did I).
I just love what you have written about a girl who travels. It’s one of my dreams to travel to lots of places here in the Philippines and abroad.And one of these days, I’ll just do it.
Amazing photos!!VEry well said!!
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this happened to me:( and i miss her so much!i can relate to everything she says here…this post touched me …this post is just beautiful and true… for those people who think this aint true… well im living proof .. this happens… for those who are interested about my story just email me id be glad to tell you coz im having a hard time carrying this baggage hahaha — heyortyort@yahoo.com
IRON
such A wonderful post..have fun travelling and be safe!
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ive read several entries… and.. i really liked yours. Seems like you do know what ur talking about. (I can definitely relate).:)
This one really hit home with me! THANK YOU for making my day!
and.. “She’s napped at a temple in Angkor Wat, went boating down the Mekong Delta, ran by the streets of Saigon…” I did all that!
An enjoyable read! And I found her!
100% amazing. Whomever ends up dating you = lucky.
This is beautiful!!!!
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Well said! I really like the post!
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I loved it start to finish.
This is such an inspiring piece! The writing is amazing and I hope you got some sort of award in that contest
Favorite part: “Find a girl who travels. Date her, love her, and marry her, and your world will never be the same again.” Perhaps my Husband can relate to his world changing 
Continue with your awesome writing!
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Sorry, this really comes off as narcissistic rationalization. Very off-putting. Wouldn’t want anything to do with this person, but wouldn’t have to try to avoid her because she would always be traveling.
That was moving, thank you.
It’s my first time to visit your website and read this post. It’s so nice and I like it, of course totally agree with your points.
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well written, funny and honest. love it – great concept for a book.
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Brilliant article – loved it! I traveled the world for ten years while living overseas. Living in the US now is definitely different. I miss the travel and the similar-minded people. And you’re right about the characteristics you listed, I completely agree. It is tough for people to accept that we really don’t fuss the way many others do. They start to think we’re a bit crazy! LOL.
Happy travels!
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I agree with most of what you have to say except the part of about how one can ‘lie’ to a girl(or anyone) who’s a traveler and assume it’ll be okay. That’s sending the wrong message to people and setting an improper precedent I believe. Just because a girl is a traveler doesn’t mean a guy can expect to lie to her and assume she’ll be fine with it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and ideas. I enjoyed reading your article.
Keep traveling.
cheers.
nice blog esp. for all lady travelers out there!
I love this – couldn’t have put it into words better myself. Great piece.
Ive been looking for this girl all my life but cant find her!
I love reading this post, Aleah. It totally stirs my heart. No wonder, it is a total hit!
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Your blog certainly hits a chord within.. I’m also a solitary traveler and what could I say? You were able to capture what we truly feel when we explore countries or even the islands here in Pinas.. its not just about having good pics to brag in facebook but its more for soul nourishment and be humbled to know how big the world is and how lucky you are to see some portions of it
Kudos to your blog and keep travelling!
Most of it I completely agree, but a girl who travels should definitely know the difference between travelling and jet setting for one weekend to Thailand, which has nothing to do with travelling.
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Fantastic! Such a beautifully written article, I enjoyed reading every word. Glad I ran into your blog…
Awesome blog!
Very Nice. I like women that are open-minded and honest like this.
Expressing true feeling and men are not very good mind readers..
Would you say that to a man face to face?
Well written, I shall keep my eyes open in my travels…
i will date a girl who travels anyday…haha
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thank you! exactly my sentiments but from a man’s PoV…
love it!! beautiful and very true on so many aspects… but one: “you can lie to her”? no way!! hope the guys of the world read this article and just ignore this part of the sentence!!
Ok. Sounds good to me!!! I’ll keep travelling, rather re-start, and wait….patiently.
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I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS!!! This must be shared!
So beautiful! I hope you men are taking notes…
This is so true! You got it all right. I absolutely LOVE this post!
well said!!!
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Loved the post and how you hint at some of the difficulties.. The ‘lie to her’ didn’t work for me either though! – but the rest, loved it!
I LOVE THIS!! You go girl friend! Maybe we’ll cross paths one day
… fellow traveler that “gets” everything you are talking about here!
hi can i have a date with you? or maybe travel together?
Lovely post ! Is there any such girl reading this article . I would like to date one
love it! a beautiful piece of writing
Very well written …
Makes sense
Yes date a girl who travels – and marry her – my hubby did…..after 14 wonderful year of letting me come and go, of meeting me for random adventures across the world and letting me take my own personal journeys in this crazy world he was still there waiting for me. He is the most incredible man in the world and gorgeous! We have a beautiful 18 month daughter born while were living in Santa Barbara, California and she has two passports and travels the world with us. My guy waited years of being on again and off again – but always my best friend – for me to finally come “home” to him. We met on traveling the great road of life and for us home is not Australia – it is not a destination – “home” is being with one another no matter where we are. The more adventurous the journey, the better. Our home is within each other, within our growing family and our playground is the world.
Great article by the way. Taps into the mind of a true traveler. Enjoy your onward journeys! As St Augustine said “the world is a book and those that do not travel read only a page” – one of my favorite quotes!
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When I read this article what amazed me was the list of attributes that are “must” for any kind of partnership (boss and subordinate, business partners, life partners, etc). Some of them are
Someone who has the habit of “savings” for out of town trips or day trips
One who has the “Mind” that takes those around them to places
One with “Open heart” that accepts others around for what they are and not for what they can be
One who is well-prepared
One who is Reliable and dependable, the traits one learns from the life journey
One who has developed the habit of taking everything with equanimity, not taking anything by surprise
One who either has the in-born / developed attitude of appreciating things around her life
Habit or attitude of appreciating the importance of identity and self-efficacy
Someone who does not like the others to pretend
Someone who knows firsthand the vagaries of human nature
Someone who retains the humility
Someone who knows that the journey is important and not the destination
These pointers are well established in this article; how that traveling girl “grabs” these skills by going through the “experiences”. I won’t be using this article to discriminate girls (for dating or for anything).
Girls or for that matter humans have different “opportunities” to develop these. In olden days it used to be through joint families, community meetings, or even through dramas, therukoothu enacted during night times at the villages and now through various vibrant environments around us.
Question is how effective are we observing and developing these?
Beautiful and romantic piece of article.
But it should remain as an article and exist in a dream only.
It is at best selfish and unrealistic.
There are exceptions though but from my viewpoint, it’s not gonna happen.
“Date a girl who travels. Make her feel safe, warm and secure. Make her believe that no matter where she goes, and however long she’s gone, you’ll always be there for, the one that she can call home.”
So what happens to the guy when he needs her?
Forgive my language, but this is fucked up one-sided view of a relationship.
Same thing with modernistic view of gender equality. Ladies, you want equality? Don’t go around telling guys “Ladies first”, “Guys should always pay” and “Guys should be a gentleman”, this and that. That’s not equality. Guys are human beings with emotional needs – so what up?
I’m sorry, somebody just got to stand out and point this inequality bs out.
But nice story, and thanks for sharing.
I soooo love your post!
Keep it up.
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Lovely post! I realised this a while ago too but this is a brilliant explanation as to why!
hey Aleah!
Came across your blog post via Pinterest and I gotta say I absolutely dig this post.
Keep the good stuff coming!
Cheers,
Wil
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This has gone viral… I read it and i wish I WROTE IT. INGGIT MODE AKO aleah. One of the best wrtiiten piece i’ve read in years… I am so proud i came acroos to know the writer of this piece. Galing galing.
ganda ng article!
she travels a lot, especially climbing known mountains here in our country. she gone to some parts in asia as well. she just love traveling seriously! we’ve been friends for years now and I just so love her character and everything about her. After I read the article she’s the first person that pops in my head. I may not be a traveler like her but being with her is like looking a simplistic beauty that Earth can offer.
this is such a nice piece of writing! you see.. i’ve been to solo traveling when i was younger then way back in phils and even now that i have my own family, i still squeeze in to our schedules some go-out-of-town trips as our bonding time. My hubby and I loves wonderful trips and adventure.i’ll wait for more of your posts as you inspire me to keep traveling and get in touch with the lovely places around the world.
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WONDERFUL! I produce a travel show and was recently told by a date that the only thing he’s concerned about when it comes to the possibility of dating is that I travel so much…his loss.
Again, thank you!
Wow a popular post and with good reason. All these things are so true but you also have to admit that is also hard to keep a girl that travels a girl that travels is never content to settle in one place. You have to move with her or be ok that you won’t always be with her.
Amazing post!
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This is for sure a great post! Thanks for a wonderful reading and some real life truths from a travelling girl
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Cudos for writing such a great article! I am setting off this week for a 10-day trip to England. You could have written this article about me. I have been saving for a few months just so I could travel again. My friends ask how can I afford to travel; how can I afford NOT to? There’s too much to see and do, and to many new friends to make.
what a nice version. i hope you don’t mind me sharing this!
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I will love to date a girl who travels, and since I love travelling too there will be pretty much of travelling we will do together. It will be a whole lot of fun.
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absolutely amazin…was like readin a story bout maself…totallly amazingly written..
This was a real genius piece of writing. I have always felt and thought this way. I am so happy to finally find others that feel the same. You go girl!!
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Hmm… date a girl who travels?
You mean, a girl with wanderlust? Who can’t sit still? Can’t settle?
Date a girl who has seen everything? For whom a painting on a street side art gallery reminds her of “this painting in the Royal Art Gallery”? For whom everything new is “wait, I’ve seen this before, meh”?
Dating a girl who travels is an acquired taste. Not quite the paradise described here. Caveat emptor.
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Date a girl who travels so about the time you are getting tired of her she’ll be leaving anyway. Date other girls who travel so while two or three are away you still have someone in your bed.
Part of the problem, Prab, is traveling girls sometimes travel in order to run away from commitments such as marriage and children and homes and jobs. They say they want these relationships, and perhaps truly do want them, but when it comes right down to making the commitment they suddenly “have” to be someplace else. This happened to me with two separate traveling girls. Even though I have the means and the willingness for them to continue traveling and for me to be a part-time single dad, they each had such strong fear of commitment, changes in body image, changes in self-image, etc, etc, etc, they would flee when we got too close. It was heart wrenching for all involved. In the end, I married someone with a stable zip code, have two beautiful kids and am not having my heart torn out at someone else’s whims. I am still in contact with each of them. We are still friends but one of them tears up when she holds my 6-month-old in her arms. She has told me she “missed the boat” and she is too old to have kids now. Time is certainly on the side of men in this case. For me to start a family at 45 was not a problem but I allowed these two women to string me along for too long. Or just long enough to find the stable woman with whom I now share a life on a daily and continuing basis.
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Love your writing style. So heartfelt and simply elegant.
What do you think the thoughts should be for a mom who travels with her kids? Totally different story but I hope you can write about it that is, if you are already one so your writing can inspire us, moms who can sometimes feel exasperation and profound pleasure at the same time.
Thanks in advance and more success!!!!
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Love this – what a great creative writing piece
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I’ve started dating a travelling girl, she is older, experienced and despite telling me she feels strongly for me, rarely expresses the sort of affection, excitement or enthusiasm toward me that I’ve become used to from previous relationships.
I’ve become extremely insecure, so much so that in the last 10 minutes, I’ve been convulsing, crying and trying madly to reason with what exactly my problem is. My girlfriend brings out my deepest insecurities, so much so that I hung up on her the other night, despite the fact that she’s abroad and we’ve not had huge amounts of contact. I didn’t even know what she had done at the time to cause my heart rate increasing and such a horrid, building frustration within.
I feel niave, inept and worthless, her equanimity towards what I say and do does nothing to help this, it only exacerbates the problem. Making me feel less important and wonder whether there’s anything about me she could possibly find attractive or interesting at all! I feel pathetic even having had to look up about 10 words from this passage to fully understand it (Did I use ‘equanimity’ correctly?).
Realising I’m a bag of insecurities (as from two months ago) I’m not crying out for answers, but anyone wanting to share opinions and ideas could well help me rationalise or see things from a more idiosyncratic viewpoint, so please comment! (See, I still don’t really get the vocab!)
love it!
girls who travel rocks
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Oh what a fantastic post. This makes me feel light and so confident. Like there is someone out there making a case for me, even though i am weird. Thank you so much for these eloquent words.
It’s an awesome piece, I would like to ask you for permision to translate it into spanish and publish it of course with the credit =D Please I hope I can do it.
wow nice post! i love it
maybe i should start looking for this type of girl.
This really is a beautiful post. But men who commented on this also have the right to feel it’s unfair, especially if the woman is still traveling even if she has a family or already strongly-committed. As for me, I’ll travel the world when I am still young, and when the time comes that I meet the right person for me, whether while on the road or the opposite, I’d whole-heartedly give my life to start a family. That doesn’t mean I’ve given up my own traveling, but hey, I’ll do everything for me to get to see the world before that time comes. Besides, there’s no greater feeling than feeling genuine love and security from someone else and be able to share what’s within you also. So see the world first, before you settle down. That’s how I like to live my life.
Cheers to all travelers!
Hi Ms.Aleah^_^ It’s my first time to visit this blog site and I really enjoyed reading this post. Makes me want to travel more and more. Traveling is definitely an awesome activity. You get to discover a lot about many, different places, get to meet new people, learn about various traditions and cultures among many others. More power Ms.Aleah. You inspire us. Looking forward to reading more of your posts.
Great stuff Aleah couldn’t stop reading. Love the photos and the lay out great blog.
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It’s a killer piece.
This is so nice. But you’ll be surprised how all those things you mentioned can fit in a “dainty handbag”. =)
OMG! Where have you (girl who travels) been all my life? Wait, I’m STILL waiting to find you!
Awesome read! Describes perfectly who I’m looking for and why.
Love it!!! And I am so sharing this post to my Fb wall..
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This is an amazing post, Aleah! I can see completely all the things you wrote there
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Hi Aleah, I never get tired of reading this. Well-written. Love it.
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